Feel free to judge me


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It’s strange that it’s gotten to this point but the phrase “you’re being judgmental” , when typed on the internet, has become one of my least favorite things said by assholes. Wait, is calling people who say that on the internet “assholes” being judgmental? Yup. Very. Here’s the thing though…we are all Judgmental. You. Me. Your mom. Your shrink.That cute old lady. Everyone. Some people are better about it than others and some people take it way overboard but , the fact of the matter is, it’s human nature. To look or hear something and not react to it in some sort of way would be strange. One can simply not care but even that person is judging in some fashion.

So, as a person who writes stuff on the internet as well as makes music for public consumption, I’m pretty used to being judged. For better of for worse. Now, with music, it’s an unavoidable pitfall. I don’t think anyone ever tells budding musicians “Hey, enjoy the creative freedom of making music but just know that you’re entire existence will hinge upon the judgment of others. ESPECIALLY strangers.” That’s something you learn as you go along. In the same sense, you learn to either be affected by it or not. I will say, it’s hard to not feel it at least a little. After all, this is your art. This is what you spend hours working on alone in a room (or where ever you make it). But the domino effect of that process is that, down the line, someone is going to tell you what they think whether you like it or not. That’s just a part of making music. Especially in this day and age when any asshole with an internet connection can bootleg an album, skim through the first 15 seconds of each track then go on a message board or youtube and tell the world how much it sucks. Are they being judgmental? For sure. But that’s just humans being humans. While I think these types are generally pieces of shit, you can’t scold the fish for pissing in the ocean. It’s just how things are and we have to begrudgingly accept it.

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On paper, this should infuriate us all. But the thing about being judgmental is that, if you take a stand against it, you are in fact being judgmental. You are judging the person who you accused of judging something else. The internet is a never ending spiral of this. People calling out other people for doing exactly what they are doing.

As someone who writes dumb tweets daily, I come across these types of people fairly often. They love nothing more than to get up on their virtual soapbox and tell me exactly what a judgmental asshole I am. Admittedly, I invite it with some of the things I may write from time to time. But the irony of them pointing the finger is lost on them. The thing about this whole mindset is that I struggle to see what universe it’s based in. Surely not this one…Not the planet I live on where every single thing a person does, that involves the looking eyes of another person, is somehow scrutinized. It’s not just in a negative sense either. You walk an old lady across the street, people who see you doing that are gonna judge you. The ruling might be “He’s a good person”, but it’s a judgement nonetheless. Judgment is important. It separates people from other people. If we didn’t judge things, people, foods, situations, we’d just walk around like huge bricks of motionless soy products with faces on them, smiling and talking about the weather. As bad as someone judging someone can be, it serves it purpose. It is short sighted to look at a stranger and, based on their outfit, draw an opinion on them. But, at the same time, some people are asking for it. As dangerous as “reading a book by it’s cover” is, I’d guess it’s probably got an 80% success rate. And the fact that we, as humans, have brains that react that way is really not in our control. The best we can do , in attempts to seem like better people, is keep these judgements to ourselves. But to say you don’t have them? Bullshit. No typical person is that zen on the internet or in life. It’s impossible to be. I think that’s what gets me most about the anti-judmental judges. It’s as if they think they live in a world where no one looks at other people and evaluates. unless you’re a buddhist monk, I don’t wanna hear that shit.

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Even the most peaceful, human loving, good natured hippie on earth judges. He may be a lot less of a dick about than say, me, but if you think he’s living life , walking around and not constantly judging everything that goes on around him, you’re insane. I’m sure he saw those new sandals you bought and told you they’re awesome (that’s a judgement). But, on the low, he thought they were simple okay. What a dick.

I embrace being judgmental. It’s how I guide my way through life. Without it, I’d have shitty taste in music, movies, food and friends. Call that being elitist but I question anyone (As well as judge them) who doesn’t do the same. It’s called having taste. It’s called knowing what you like and dislike. To be a person who doesn’t do that…I don’t even know what the point of living would be. Perhaps just living to die without any thoughts in your head or, even worse, ignoring the natural thoughts that run through your brain constantly in an attempt to seem “fair and balanced”.
The idea of being “accepting” of everything is cute but not realistic simply cause most of “everything” is pretty shitty. It’s our job , as humans, to make our own minds up and pick and choose. I’m sure it’s been going on since the caveman days. You think Grog didn’t judge Throlg’s cave art? Of course he did (Grog was a known prick).
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So, as much as it pains me, get your judge on. You’re judging this right now and that’s fine. It’s how this works. Love it or hate, I Accept it. Just do me a solid and NEVER scold me for being judgmental. Not cause it’s not true but because you’re no better than me , no matter what you think…cause you think. Just like me.

21 thoughts on “Feel free to judge me

  1. “I’m just a caveman, your modern ways frighten and confuse me.” Hey, Block, what is it about Unfrozen Caveman Lawyer that just makes such a lasting impact? EL-P quoted him on FanDam, and now here he is again.

  2. I’d love to hear Alicia Keys’ take on the question: Do you ever judge other people? Her response would be classic

  3. Good one man.
    Being judgemental is a natural thing.
    I’m pretty sure that this comes from that comment on your Waka Flocka post hey, what a dick.

  4. Outside of the context of the internet, I’ve definitely before caught myself thinking ‘wow, some of the girls I’ve grown up with have turned out to be the most judgmental people ever’ and then I realize ‘holy shit! easy there…hypocrite’

    • The thing is, there are so many layers to being judgmental. I too have heard someone begin totally petty and talking shit about something and felt “jesus…chill with that bullshit…”. So, while I contend we’re all judgmental, some people are really bad about it in real life and they’re , in general, truly miserable human beings.

  5. “Another way to access the field of pure potentiality is through the practice of non-judgment. Judgment is the constant evaluation of things as right or wrong, good or bad. When you are constantly evaluating, classifying, labeling, analyzing, you create a lot of turbulence in your internal dialogue. This turbulence constricts the flow of energy between you and the field of pure potentiality.” …. just sayin

    • Good luck with that. My brain is one that evaluates everything. I can’t even control it. I don’t see how one can just turn that off. And, honestly, I’m cool with that. My inner dialogue isn’t particularly turbulent.

      • Haha, well, according to the book, the way to turn that off is to remind yourself to judge nothing whenever you catch yourself judging anything, which in turn creates silence as opposed to turbulence… if practicing the procedure for the whole day seems too difficult it says you can try doing it just for 1 hour or 2 hours at first….

      • The premise of the book isn’t really doing what you enjoy vs. doing what you don’t enjoy. The premise is that everything in the universe comes from, “the field of pure potentiality, which is purely unmanifest.” By mirroring the laws in which the unmanifest becomes manifest (i.e. non-judging), you more closely align yourself with the field of pure potentiality, which “allows you to create with carefreeness and joy” among other things. But I don’t think you would do it because you’re like, “I’m judging things, I don’t enjoy this.” If you wanted to align yourself with pure potentiality, is when you would do this, according to this book. If you actually want to do this or not isn’t really my concern. I don’t really do this myself. It was a book I read awhile ago and I thought offered a different perspective besides saying like, “yeah I judge people all the time.”

      • I think my point is that I don’t believe that way of existing to be possible. At least not in the society I live in. It’s a nice theory and I see why one might strive for that but it’s like turning off your brain 24/7. Sounds like hippie/spiritual propaganda to me but, then again, I am judging it like a motherfucker.

  6. For answers for questions:

    What kind of tv watcher are you? Obviously there are shows that you need to watch in sequence in order to understand the plot, but with a show like “Louie” for example, are you a jump-arounder with the episodes or are you adamant about watching things in order?

  7. The level of being judgmental is woven into personalities, and everyone does it. There’s the more obvious side of judging, with people who are more animated and spit out every half a thought. And then there’s the internal judging everyone does even unconsciously, the one that perhaps doesn’t show at all. Some sugarcoat their judgment, some are straightforward and do all to keep it honest, some make heavy judgments with joy and lick their fingers afterwards; harmonous socialites, rationals, and cynics/dramaqueens.

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